June 17 2001 EhBC Online Discussion

<BernieRoehl> Hi, everyone!
<DarkAngel^{rt}> and here is our moderator
* BernieRoehl glances at his watch
<Schadde> Hey Bernie
<yummier> hi BernieRoehl :)
<yummier> perfect timing BernieRoehl :)
<BernieRoehl> Thanks, yummier!
<BernieRoehl> Hello, Schadde
<BernieRoehl> Almost time for the discussion...
<becky{BH2}> good evening Bernie ;o)
<BernieRoehl> Hi, becky!
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<BernieRoehl> Welcome to our regular Sunday night discussion. Please refrain from sending "hi" and "bye" messages until after 10 pm. Also note that the discussion is being logged. If you wish to say something, but remain anonymous, you should change your nick. We recommend using twisted.ma.us.dal.net as your server, to minimize lag. Tonight's discussion is "Roleplaying". The moderator tonight is BernieRoehl. Enjoy the discussion!
<BernieRoehl> So, welcome everyone!
<DarkAngel^{rt}> you taking the roll of moderator BernieRoehl
<BernieRoehl> Yup, but feel free to jump in DA!
<DarkAngel^{rt}> jump
<BernieRoehl> One of the aspects of BDSM that a lot of people never really experiment with as much as they'd like is roleplaying
<BernieRoehl> The basic idea is that for the purposes of a scene, one or both (or all...) of the participants become someone different from who they normally are.
<BernieRoehl> So... has anyone here experimented with roleplaying?
<DarkAngel^{rt}> we havent ,,,, mainly because rt's R/L roll is my property ,, my slut ,, and I like that
* BernieRoehl nods
<MistressSarcastica> Bless me father, for I have sinner. It's been 4 weeks since my last roleplay.
* BernieRoehl smiles
<becky{BH2}> lol
<BernieRoehl> Four long weeks, eh MistressSarcastica?
<MistressSarcastica> what's my penance, Father?
<BernieRoehl> You may find that "Father John" is very strict! :-)
* Father^John evil smile ,,, well my daughter ,, going to have to be the paddle
<Father^John> I resemble that
<Father^John> well actually ,, one day I did put rt to the ground ,, and made her eat her supper naked from a plate like a dog
<BernieRoehl> That would certainly count as roleplaying
<Father^John> she was lippy
<Father^John> she loved it
<Schadde> WOuldn't that be her 'normal roll', as you say?
<Father^John> no Schadde ,, I made her be fed like a dog as part of disapline
<Schadde> Ah. *nods*
<BernieRoehl> Do others here find that even when there is an ongoing "role" on a dailyl basis, that it's heightened in-scene?
<Father^John> well it did open for us a new area to explore ,, but havent much for roll playing
<Schadde> Hmm... I would think so, as 'daily life' doesn't intrude on 'play-time'. Thus there's more attention put into it.
<Father^John> who has done specific rolls here ?
<BernieRoehl> I have
<Father^John> what roll BernieRoehl ?
* BernieRoehl looks around
<BernieRoehl> Guess I'm the only one! :-)
<Sly_Scotian> I can't say that role playing interests me... other than play rape
* puellula`Lupi missed the question lol
<Father^John> who has done specific scene roll playing puellula`Lupi
<BernieRoehl> Father John (DA) asked who here has played specific roles
* puellula`Lupi has
<MistressSarcastica> As switches, we do a fair amount of roleplay.
<Father^John> kewl puellula`Lupi ,,, care to share ?
<Schadde> Can't say I've roll-played yet. Possibly in the future.
* #bdsm-kw is being logged
<puellula`Lupi> i have gotten into a lot of age-play
<Schadde> That's true, Sarcastica.
<BernieRoehl> Age-play is definitely a popular form of roleplaying
<MistressSarcastica> It helps define who we are for that particular scene.
<Father^John> how would you say age play puellula`Lupi ? ,, we talking just school girl outfit ?
<puellula`Lupi> no, actually i am not really into the "costume" part of role-play....
<Father^John> ahhh
<puellula`Lupi> it's more psychological
<Father^John> Dom Dady type ?
<puellula`Lupi> yes
<Father^John> kewl ,,
<MistressSarcastica> hence the name, right?
<puellula`Lupi> i *am* a little girl for a time
<puellula`Lupi> and the costuming isn't necessary for me to "go there"
<BernieRoehl> Can you talk about the process of entering that headspace? How do you "go there"?
<puellula`Lupi> well, i have to really hand over that responsibility to my Master....He tends to get me there through His speech, mannerisms etc..
<puellula`Lupi> though i suppose at times i do it myself
<BernieRoehl> Was ageplay something you had tried before meeting your Master, or did he introduce you to it?
<puellula`Lupi> it is very rarely a consious effort on either of our parts though....it tends to just slip in
<puellula`Lupi> sometimes more deeply than others
<puellula`Lupi> well, it is something that He and i explored together for the first time in a consious way
<puellula`Lupi> i had some experiences with others where the "feelings" of being a little girl were there...but they were not spoken of, or fully realized
<Father^John> interesting
<puellula`Lupi> i think the two most interesting things about role-play for me have been ...
<BernieRoehl> So what form does the ageplay take?
<puellula`Lupi> 1, that i didn't realize just HOW into it i could be...i truly felt like i was that little girl
<puellula`Lupi> and 2, how much more aftercare was necessary...to get back into a regular headspace...far more than any other type of scene
<puellula`Lupi> not sure what You mean by "form" Bernie
<Father^John> have you ever dont that type publicly puellula`Lupi ?
<puellula`Lupi> not really Father^John...i have dressed up like a schoolgirl....but that was just "fetwear"...never gotten into the headspace in public
<BernieRoehl> How does the younger persona express itself?
<puellula`Lupi> i am not sure i could...a the atmosphere of a public fet night doesn't fit with a "little girl" scene lol
<BernieRoehl> Does the way you speak change, the way you move?
<Father^John> I wondered about that puellula`Lupi
<Father^John> has anyone else done the little girl scene ?
<puellula`Lupi> well...it expresses itself outside of my relationship most definately...in dress (at times), speech, actions
<puellula`Lupi> but i tend to let go in that direction more with my Daddy :)
<MistressSarcastica> I have a Daddy, but you're not likely to see us engage in that way. It's a very private type of incestuous interaction.
<Father^John> "Daddy" emits thoughts of control and safety
<BernieRoehl> I've done schoolmaster/schoolgirl scenes
<puellula`Lupi> definately Father^John
<puellula`Lupi> i actually don't see our age-play as role-play...it just doesn't fit for me...
<puellula`Lupi> i guess because it is such a part of me...it doesn't feel like a role
<puellula`Lupi> tho i know i am not actually a child lol
<BernieRoehl> The best roles don't feel like "roles" -- they're a part of who we are
<Father^John> kewl puellula`Lupi ,,, I was thinking that way at the beginning of the discusion
<ChaseWisdom> So, it's like a persona, then?
<Father^John> I think most of us assume those rolls that complete us
<puellula`Lupi> but i think part of that may be because i feel like a little girl just because of my personality, and also the gap in age difference between my Master and myself
<Father^John> slut ,,, property ,, whore ,, Sadist,, Master,, Owner
<`abi> does roleplay just extend something that is part of someone anyway... a magnification or zoom feature?
<puellula`Lupi> it can abi...
<BernieRoehl> Agreed
<puellula`Lupi> i think the characteristics are often part of us...but the details are sometimes very specific...and so, very clear that it is a role
<MistressSarcastica> or something that is completely foreign to you
<BernieRoehl> A lot of it is about finding the persona from inside ourselves, and bringing it to the surface
<puellula`Lupi> like...i feel like a little girl...that is part of me...but if i am in a kilt and bent over desk ...i *know* i am not actually attending elementary school
<puellula`Lupi> so that part is the role
* Father^John has to get a school desk,,,,, lol
* puellula`Lupi has a nice one :)
<Father^John> tease
<Father^John> lol
<TruDomme> but could you get into the right frame of mind if a class were to start the scene puellula`Lupi?
<BernieRoehl> Do you find that those external things (kilt, desk and so on) enhance the reality for your partner?
<`abi> this may be restating Bernie's earlier question about headspace...but how does one get past the feeling that this is like Hallowe'en and make it feel somehow real?
<TruDomme> do your surroundings make any difference
<Buzzard`> there are other roles such as pony play...how is that an extension of who someone is?? are they part horse?? or is there some other drive being fulfilled?
<puellula`Lupi> not really, though i do understand that the props help others...for TheWolfe...it doesn't
<TruDomme> I've watched lucius' eyes when he talks about ponyplay...definitely a headspace
<BernieRoehl> Well, there's a whole system of thought that says we all have "animal essences" inside us. Some people are feline by nature and temperment, others are canine, others equine.
<Father^John> if the sub feels the need to be brought to their animal side Buzzard`
<puellula`Lupi> abi, i found the lack of costume and strict scenario helped it feel real...so now the props are just fun but feel less odd
<BernieRoehl> For some people who do animal roleplaying, it's about contacting their inner essences, much like reaching the child inside during ageplay
* `abi nods ... that makes sense puellula`Lupi
<Father^John> well similar when I put my leash on rt ,,,, she is happy in my collar like a bitch
<`abi> is it not also sometimes about objectification Bernie?
<BernieRoehl> Very much, abi
<BernieRoehl> That objectification is very powerful -- and part of what makes it feel more real
<Father^John> I would say that is the main part in the TPE we share `abi
<Father^John> Mmmm any others ? .. age-play or other ?
<BernieRoehl> So what other forms of roleplaying have people dne?
<BernieRoehl> (done) -> [#bdsm-kw] PING
<puellula`Lupi> i've done the "collared and led crawling on the floor" thing
<Father^John> Mmmm well semi explored cheap prostitute
<MistressSarcastica> We're planning a witch-burning right now.
<puellula`Lupi> it wasn't specifically a "doggy" role, but that was the idea
<puellula`Lupi> i hated it lol
<Father^John> lol ,,, rt loves that puellula`Lupi
<puellula`Lupi> it feels kinda stupid to me...and not in a humiliating way, i just feel like...why the hell am i doing this? lol
<Father^John> not a roll for you then puellula`Lupi ,,, unless you find something that works
<puellula`Lupi> exactly
<puellula`Lupi> it just didn't feel right for me
<puellula`Lupi> brb
<`abi> raises and interesting point ... is there a bigger squick-factor in roleplay than other BDSM activities?
<BernieRoehl> The witch-burning sounds interesting -- can you tell us more about that, MistressSarcastica?
<MistressSarcastica> Well, the submissive in question has a number of fears and fetishes. fire being a big fear, religion being a big fetish.
<Brevelan> I'm wondering how that could work safely...
<Father^John> raise your skirt too `abi
<Father^John> fire play Brevelan
<MistressSarcastica> Safety is the reason why it hasn't been done yet.
<Father^John> how about prostitute roll
<MistressSarcastica> We've negotiated for some first degree burns, but the concern is to get her out of the fire without real damage.
<Father^John> ouch MistressSarcastica ,,, plan it carefully
<Father^John> and get a fireblanket
<MistressSarcastica> duh, Father.
<Father^John> lol
<BernieRoehl> One approach would be to show her real fire, and then blindfold her
<Father^John> fireblanket from welding supply store
<BernieRoehl> Have some burning papers nearby, along with something that will produce lots of smoke when it burns
<Father^John> or safety supply
<MistressSarcastica> Nope, she needs to feel the flames to absolve her.
<Brevelan> THen let her feel the heat.
<MistressSarcastica> I am going to follow up on the fireblanket. What would then run, and how do they work?
<MistressSarcastica> {they}
<BernieRoehl> A fireblanket will let you smother the flames quickly
<`abi> knew it would never stick Father^John ;)
<BernieRoehl> Have someone stand by with a (new) fire extinguisher with the pin already pulled
<BernieRoehl> Then pray :-)
<DarkAngel^{rt}> not sure MistressSarcastica ,,, but there are 2 main types ,,
<BernieRoehl> Seriously, that level of fireplay is not something I would recommend
<Buzzard`> perhaps talk to some stuntmen
<Buzzard`> or special effects people
<BernieRoehl> Most fireplay is done with a lot of care and precision. Burning someone at the stake is *very* dangerous, because the flames will be hard to control preciselyl.
<DarkAngel^{rt}> we are talking more like stiff canvass for total fire proof ,,, the other is to smother flames on a person ,, but it will catch fire slowly
<MistressSarcastica> as I said, we've negotiated first-degree burns, Bernie. At the level at which she plays, some level of injury is acceptable.
<BernieRoehl> The traditional approach stuntmen take is firesuits, that allow them to be actually set on fire for ten or fifteen seconds
<bluechick^> flash cotton?
<bluechick^> one burst of flame?
<bluechick^> then gone?
<DarkAngel^{rt}> serious edge play MistressSarcastica
<`abi> one burst of flame is quite enough to set fire to something that will cause real damage
<MistressSarcastica> We're thinking more like a suspension rigging to get her up and away. But it's very much in the still-talking-about stage.
<DarkAngel^{rt}> just heat will cause serious damage
<BernieRoehl> Controlling the flame precisely enough to produce only first-degree burns, without causing permanent scarring, may be impossible.
<`abi> and heat and fire rises, so I'm not sure that "up and away" is too wise
<DarkAngel^{rt}> might look around for a fireman in the scene
* Buzzard` can hear the emergency room visit now....lol
<DarkAngel^{rt}> pipe in a sprinkler system with a hand valve release
<MistressSarcastica> Yup, agreed. However, back to roleplay. She wants to be a witch -- we want to make her a witch.
<DarkAngel^{rt}> hide the goat MistressSarcastica
<BernieRoehl> There are a few firemen in the community, DA
<Buzzard`> didn't they also drown them??
<`abi> is there a point at which roleplay becomes psychologically dangerous?
<MistressSarcastica> Drownings are great for roleplay -- lovely for interrogation scenes -- captured and tortured.
<DarkAngel^{rt}> didnt they also let the town leaders "use" them for a while before killing them ?
<MistressSarcastica> you wish, DA.
<DarkAngel^{rt}> damn ,,, worth a try
<BernieRoehl> Well, it would depend on how deeply into role they go abi
<DarkAngel^{rt}> what are some rolls ,,, that some WANT to perhaps explore ?
<MistressSarcastica> Isn't everything that we do potentially dangerous, abi?
<BernieRoehl> And what's hidden deep in the person's psyche. If they have personal demons, certain types of roleplaying may bring those things to the surface.
* DarkAngel^{rt} <--- pimp, Daddy, cop
<`abi> some more than others MistressSarcastica
<MistressSarcastica> All the more reason to know your playpartners.
<`abi> that's what I was thinking BernieRoehl ... as well as motivation for wanting to roleplay certain things
* DarkAngel^{rt} would take a bj to let a slut off her ticket
<BernieRoehl> True -- some people may be seeking catharsis, and finding it may be difficult/traumatic
<DarkAngel^{rt}> anyone have a squad car I could borrow for the w/e ?
<Chase_Wisdom> If only...
<DarkAngel^{rt}> have you thought of the cop roll Chase_Wisdom ?
<BernieRoehl> At night, any sedan with a flashing light on the roof will do
<DarkAngel^{rt}> !! freeze ,, get your skirt up !!
<Chase_Wisdom> No, actually. I think it would be very cool.
<Chase_Wisdom> lol
<DarkAngel^{rt}> me too Chase_Wisdom
<Chase_Wisdom> *taking notes*
* DarkAngel^{rt} will ask again ,,, what rolls would people LIKE to EXPLORE ?????????
<Chase_Wisdom> Did a rape scene once...
* DarkAngel^{rt} <----- cop, Daddy, pimp
<DarkAngel^{rt}> kewl ,, actuakly I did as well
<DarkAngel^{rt}> forgot about that
<`abi> memorable was it DA?
<DarkAngel^{rt}> lol,, didnt look at it as roll play `abi ,,, but it was looking at it that way
<DarkAngel^{rt}> she entered ,, I grabbed her by the hair ,, and threw her to the kitchen table ,,, used her ,, threw her out and lockled the dor ,,
<DarkAngel^{rt}> door
* DarkAngel^{rt} evil grin ,.......
<DarkAngel^{rt}> oops ,, no the door was a different time sorry
<`abi> that's what she gets for forgetting the pizza
<MistressSarcastica> I'm still looking for a nice Nazi officer to come my way <sigh>.
<BernieRoehl> Some roleplaying requires costuming -- police uniforms, Nazi uniforms, schoolgirl uniforms -- while other forms of roleplaying don't.
<BernieRoehl> Do the costumes add to the experience, or are they more of an obstacle for some?
<Chase_Wisdom> An obstacle if you're unable to obtain them
<MistressSarcastica> I'm a much more believable evil nurse with my cap on.
<littleminx> for the easy to obtain costumes, i would say they add to them. being a little girl almost requires a skirt to flounce
<MistressSarcastica> and a handbag? Little girls need handbags.
<littleminx> i have a my little pony handbag.. and an endless supply of round red lollipops
<BernieRoehl> So... that sounds like a "yes" vote for costuming
<littleminx> big yes from this corner
<Chase_Wisdom> and this one
<MistressSarcastica> yup.
<MistressSarcastica> Gotta get me a pilgrim hat for my witchburning ...
<BernieRoehl> Well, just five minutes left in the discussion
<BernieRoehl> Anyone have anything to add on any aspect of roleplaying?
<MistressSarcastica> Anyone know where I can get a pilgrim hat? <grin>
<Chase_Wisdom> Try Mavis in Uptown Waterloo...
<BernieRoehl> Well, even though it's two minutes to 10, let's wrap it there. :-)
<BernieRoehl> Thanks to everyone for participating in the discussion!
<bluechick^> thank you... :) , it was interesting
<Chase_Wisdom> Thanks, BernieRoehl
<bluechick^> its an interesting topic
<`abi> you're welcome Bernie...you can put down that chalkboard eraser now ::)
<dalian> great discussion Bernie
* BernieRoehl smiles
<BernieRoehl> Thanks!
<bluechick^> lol abi
<Chase_Wisdom> Anyone able to direct me to where I could get more ideas on different scenes?
<DarkAngel^{rt}> great discusion BernieRoehl
<BernieRoehl> I'm going offline for a bit to process and upload the log
<BernieRoehl> See you all later!