April 17, 2005 EhBC Online Discussion

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<ModBot> Welcome to or regular Sunday night discussion. Please refrain from sending "hi" and "bye" messages until after 10 pm. Also note that the discussion is being logged. If you wish to remain anonymous, you should change your nick. Tonight's discussion topic is "Early Interest -- Things in Your Youth That Led You to BDSM". The discussion is unmoderated. Enjoy!
<Titan> tower of pain quite that device cai
<Titan> Grin
<cailin{T}> smiles yes Master
<Titan> I have the clover clamps but not the rest of the device
<nightmans> what about are discussion 2 night
<Titan> how much is it cai?
<cailin{T}> night what made You go to bdsm
<spirited_sassy{CP}> the discussion is about things in your youth taht led to bdsm
<nightmans> after a few badly failed relshionship
<nightmans> i relooked back at my life to see if i could tell why thay fail and why i was not happy
<catsbrat{CM}> with me i was always sitting in class when i had male teachers and wonder what it would be like to feel his hand spanking me from about grade 5 on
<cailin{T}> i remeber being in bed with a bf and wanting him to take control
<nightmans> well when i looked back and talk to a sub i found out alot of my self and it all just seam to fit
<nightmans> cailin{T} yes i have felt the same way my self
<nightmans> Justice may i pm you
<Justice> sure nightmans
<cailin{T}> i didnt know what it was until i started doing reserch and like you night just seem to fit
<nightmans> i just started asking question and alot of them and it ture out the last woman i dated i was in a sub roll with her
<Titan> and you still research cai
<cailin{T}> yes my Master
<nightmans> i did all the cooking cleaning and when way out of my way to make her happy
<cailin{T}> think most the time ppl just dont realize what bdsm really is
<nightmans> it's many thing's
<cailin{T}> yes all i every heard it was just kinky sex
<cailin{T}> we all know it is alot more then sex it mental its apart of Your soul
<Titan> mind body soul
<nightmans> well put
<nightmans> ok it's geting far to quite
<catsbrat{CM}> i was more interested in spankings and stumbled into bdsm after my first adult spanking
<Titan> in my youth like using crop etc when had horses ,ironic
<nightmans> pain was not for it it was trust and know i would be then care of
<catsbrat{CM}> i always liked the sound of a male voice speaking authoritively
<cailin{T}> i am like that cat smiles
<minxy> me and my best friend used to tie each other up... when we were 7.
<spirited_sassy{CP}> cowboys and indians was a good game as kids
<nightmans> i know as a kid when ppl would whnat to "play house" i was all way's the dogh
<cailin{T}> i am for me having someone order me to do something and giving me no choice makes me hot
<catsbrat{CM}> when i was younger friends and i would play school and i would always be sent to the male principals office
<nightmans> lol
<cailin{T}> lol lucky you
<nightmans> cool
<nightmans> i was so bad in school i spent more time at home spented then i did at school
<spirited_sassy{CP}> i grew up in all girls school with nuns
<spirited_sassy{CP}> do i have to say more?
<nightmans> oh i bet you got in truble
<spirited_sassy{CP}> nope but took punishment for the other girls
<cailin{T}> smiles
<nightmans> sweet
<Titan> grin
<aymelek{Drakkar}> does anyone think there is a trigger that brought on the interest? or is it just "there"
<cailin{T}> can see me these days just to do something wrong so i CAN get punished
<aymelek{Drakkar}> i've often wondered
<spirited_sassy{CP}> my punishment now is not fun
<spirited_sassy{CP}> or likable
<catsbrat{CM}> i am not sure what the trigger was for me it just seemed to be there
<cailin{T}> i don't think there was a trigger just seemed right
<nightmans> i have all way's tryed to make otter's happy so i think your just born with it
<spirited_sassy{CP}> there was no trigger for me either
<aymelek{Drakkar}> i've always enjoyed helping others and pleasing, i just wondered if it was just the way i am, or if was from something from my childhood
<`abi{A}> that could have led you anywhere aymelek{Drakkar}...what was it about those traits that led specifically to BDSM?
<nightmans> i think it's motly born with it but how your treated as a kid could change it
<spirited_sassy{CP}> for me it was the Nun's strap
<aymelek{D}> i started seeing the one i'm with now, He was into it
<aymelek{D}> i had no clue about it, He introduced me slowly
<nightmans> i would ahve rather hade a Domme tech me then read online
<`abi{A}> so perhaps it's a combination of nature and opportunity? ... or is it a driving force? .. what comes first, the chicken or the egg?
<aymelek{D}> i was so naive `abi{A} i didn't even know what bdsm stood for!
<nightmans> aymelek{D} up till x-mas i did not eather
<aymelek{D}> i would think it's the right combination......everyone has a starting point
* aymelek{D} smiles @ nightmans
<nightmans> yep now i read and chat with many till i have a real life techer
<spirited_sassy{CP}> i have been into BDSM for a long time even when i didn't know what it was
<nightmans> i think we all due i was 6-7 is as far back as i can trace it for my self
<spirited_sassy{CP}> yeah 6 or 7
<toiletslave9> hello
<spirited_sassy{CP}> but i new about S&M it was the D/s part that came as a surprise
<nightmans> yep i can rember a dream from back then and i'am just starting to under stand it
<aymelek{D}> it was the D/s that attracted me most
<aymelek{D}> at the very beginning though, i asked Him why anyone would WANT to be a slave....
<nightmans> yah being told what to due and being controled and being taken care of
<aymelek{D}> i also used to think it would be easy to be a "good girl"....how hard could it be to do what you're told?
<nightmans> oh boy is it ever hard
<aymelek{D}> no kidding!
<catsbrat{CM}> i find the lil devil pops up all too often ;o)
<nightmans> i ahve never been collared and i know i'am bad
<nightmans> lol
<aymelek{D}> it's easy to please when you're in the right mood, but when you're tired or not feeling the best....different story!
<nightmans> i bet
<toiletslave9> hey
<toiletslave9> hello
<nightmans> here is a idea
<nightmans> on avg dateing the man try's to pick up a woman but should a dom pick up a sub or the sub pick up a dom
<aymelek{D}> hmmmmmmmm, i would think the Dom should make the move
<cailin{T}> i agree
<nightmans> i think so too
<aymelek{D}> the whole control issue
<nightmans> yes but few woman i found are willing would that not make thing more complex
<aymelek{D}> willing to what?
<nightmans> ask a guy
<aymelek{D}> i think a Domme would have the confidence
<nightmans> i don't think it's confidence just that so many would be offer with out asking
<aymelek{D}> that's kind of off topic anyway
<aymelek{D}> a whole new thing
<nightmans> true
<Titan> should of chained her to the chair
* aymelek{D} grins
<Titan> yes is off topic
* nightmans sit's quite as he has noting to offer to this topic
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<nightmans> so it's traced back tot =when i was a kid just toke me to fail at life to find out
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