The Primer
Reading Your EhBC’s

January ‘97 Volume 2.1


The Opening Shot:
Munches, Brunches, and Chats... Oh, My!

The EhBC group has been growing by leaps and bounds lately, and with the start of the new year we're creating a couple of additional opportunities for our members to get together.

Up to now, the only regularly-scheduled events have been our monthly munches, which provide a chance for people with an interest in erotic domination and submission to meet for casual conversation in the comfort of a public restaurant.

The munches have been well attended, recently drawing as many as 40 to 45 people. However, some of our out-of-towners have found it difficult to make it on the first Wednesday of each month. There are also people whose work schedule prevents them from attending. As a result, we're now adding a second munch-style event: a Sunday Brunch, on the third Sunday of every month.

But wait... there's more!

The munches and brunches are great for casual mingling and conversation, but some people would like a chance to have some deeper discussions about our shared area of interest. We've therefore started organizing "discussion groups" on the second Sunday of each month. (NOTE: January's discussion group has been moved to the 25th due to unforeseen scheduling difficulties) A topic will be chosen and announced ahead of time, and the lovely Cat has volunteered to lead the discussions.

In other words, there are now three get-togethers every month. There's no need to

attend all of them, and the first-Wednedsay munches are still the focal point of our little group, but now there are even more opportunities for good conversation about bondage, discipline, domination and submission.

To recap: We meet for dinner (a "munch") at 7pm on the first Wednesday of every month in The Boardroom at the Huether Hotel in beautiful Uptown Waterloo. We also have brunch at noon on the third Sunday of every month at the Fox and Pheasant on University Avenue in Waterloo. And finally, we have a discussion group at 1 pm on the second Sunday of every month (call karen/kitten at 886-4867 for details).

With so many opportunities to get together, there's no reason for anyone to miss out. We hope to see you at one or more of these events some time soon!

- Bernie Roehl


Play Party!

One of the many things the EhBC group does is organize "play parties". We've held two so far, and both have been a lot of fun. Our next one is coming up fast -- February 28th, to be exact.

Since a lot of our newer members weren't around when we held our last party back in October, we thought we'd take this opportunity to explain what a play party is all about.

In essence, a play party is a chance for people to let their hair down and be themselves. Doms can be Doms, subs can be subs, and people are free to play with each other in a safe, supervised atmosphere. We provide suitable furnishings, but people are encouraged to bring whatever toys they have.

No one is ever required to play, or to do anything that they don't feel comfortable with. If all you want to do is sit and watch that's fine.

In order to help ensure the safety and privacy of everyone involved, we do have a number of rules. Some of those rules have to do with what is and is not allowed at the party. There'll be no alcohol, and if you appear to be intoxicated when you arrive, you'll be asked to leave. No penetrative sex, and no exposed genitals. Basically, nothing that can get us in trouble with the law.

Other rules relate to who is and is not allowed to go to the party itself. The event is strictly invitation-only. If you've attended one or more of our munches, you're invited. You are also allowed to bring guests, but you are responsible for their behavior. You must also give us a list of their names before the party itself -- no last-minute surprises.

Although there's no "dress code" as such, we do ask that people bring suitable fetish attire. There'll be changing space on-site, so you can arrive in street clothes if you like. If you have questions about what to wear, or what not to wear, contact Arnora -- she's our resident expert on costuming. She can be reached at 894-3996. (NOTE: For those with internet connections, past discussions on what to wear can be found in the EhBC website archives, and in the Fetiquette White Paper, also accessible from the EhBC website.)

We hope to see you all on February 28th!

- Bernie Roehl


New Discussion Group

Hi all, I've taken on a new project for myself that is quite apart from EhBC.

With the kind offer of a Net friend of mine to use the ISP that he owns, I have set up a new mailing list specifically for male Dominants, and female submissives who are interested in, or already are, actively integrating D/s into their *lifestyle* and relationships. This is not a list for people who are completely new to the Scene, rather it is a place for people who think there might something more beyond the fun and games at the surface.

Singles, couples, and other family configurations are all welcome.

There is no cost to join, and the list will be closed after 100 addresses have been added, to cut down on the noise level associated with larger lists like the MDOM list that has over 800 people subscribed.

Please feel free to pass this information to friends that you think may be interested, but please do so carefully. I am interested in building a list of people who will participate actively and responsibly with few flame wars. And with only 100 spots available, I don't want a list of 100 lurkers either. :)

How it works is this...you email me with interest, I send you the list rules, you send me a short note agreeing to abide by them, and I add you by hand to the list, at which point you will receive the welcome letter with the list address.

If you are interested in getting on this new list, or just want to ask more questions, please email me privately at the kitten@golden.net address.

Thanks, karen/kitten :)


Upcoming Events/Scene Contacts

Madame X hosts a fetish night at Limelight, on the last Tuesday of every month. 250 Adelaide Street West, in Toronto. Strict fetish dress code enforced at the door. For more information, call 416-537-2896 or 416-340-0646.

He & She Clothing Gallery - Play clothes for Grown-Ups. 263-265 Queen Street East, Toronto. phone 416-594-0171.
Hours: Mon.-Wed.10-7, Thurs & Fri.10-9, Sat.10-6, Sun.12-6

Doc's Leathers and Dungeon Gear - new and old, bought and sold, chaps, bondage and discipline gear, pants, jock straps, jackets, vests. 726 Queen Street West, Toronto. 416-504-8888.

Aslan Leather - Leather and vinyl dildo harnesses, leather dildos, whips, chest and body harnesses, and other fun toys. By Carrie. For catalogue info, please write:
363 Sourauren Avenue, Box 58 Toronto, ON M6R 2G5
or phone: 416-538-9759.

Boudoir Noir, Canada's best known Leather - Fetish - Consensual SM Magazine, published four times a year by Boudoir Noir Publications Inc., Box 5, Stn.F, Toronto, ON M4Y 2L4. Phone 1-800-498-8750. Six issue subscription price is going up to $36 effective 1998. Boudoir Noir also hosts a Fetish Night, at the Catacombs (below the Sanctuary), every second and fourth Thursday of the month. 732 Queen Street West, Toronto. 10:30pm-1:30am. Dancing, videos, door prizes, coat check, changing room. Leather, fetish-SM dress code is requested but not mandatory. Cover $5.

Bear Buddies Toronto is a social group for gay and bisexual "bearish" men and their male admirers. We welcome members and guests of all ages, races and body types. BEAR MEAT, our informal get-together, happens every 3rd Friday of the month at the Toolbox (508 Eastern Avenue, Toronto. 416-466-8616.)


EhBC Munches:

First Wednesday of every month, in the Board Room, at the Barley Works, in the Huether Hotel, Uptown Waterloo (corner King and Princess Streets). Dress code is casual, all are welcome for dinner, drinks, conversation and socializing. 7-10pm +.

Find us online at:
ehbc@golden.net (email) or http://www.golden.net/~ehbc

If you have email, you can request information on the EhBC General Mailing List, Announcements Only List, or Administration List from ehbc@golden.net.

The EhBC Discussion Group meeting:

January 25th, phone karen 519-886-4867 for location, 1-4pm.  The topic of the discussion group's next meeting is "Formal Training "