The Primer
Reading Your EhBC’s

December ‘97 Volume 1.2


Clothespin Modification

Are your clothespins a pain? Well, they should be. Most clothespins are made to hold onto a 1/4" piece of rope, not human bodies. Well there is a simple solution to them falling off prematurely.

Because the ends of a clothespin are chamfered, they have a tendency to fall off. By taking a small saw or a piece of sand paper and chamfering the clothespin in the opposite direction they will bite to skin much more easily. This photo shows both the original and the modified clothespin.

Now, for the second modification. If you find that clothespins are either too hard or too soft, have no fear Goldilocks, there is another simple fix so that you can make them just right.

By taking an elastic band and wrapping it around the clothespin you can effectively make them harder or softer. By moving the elastic band on either side of the hinge point you can make the cloths pin harder or softer. Now here ends our lesson for today.

Sir Guy

NEW KYLE STONE BOOK LAUNCH DEC. 15 AT TORONTO'S BLACK EAGLE

Kyle Stone's "Hidden Slave" Book Launch will be at The Black Eagle, 457 Church Street in Toronto on Monday, Dec. 15 at 9pm. According to the release, there will be "Rousing readings! Stimulating scenes from the novel! Naked Buffet! Prizes! Kyle Stone books available!" The reading/book launch is sponsored by The Black Eagle, Canadian Male, The Connection ISP and Glad Day Books. "Boot boy in attendance."

-news courtesy of Boudnoir Noir's weekly email newsletter, reprinted with permission


Ask Ilana

Welcome to the "Ask Ilana" column. Written by yours truly.

This column is going to sort of be a helpful thing, occasionally a funny thing, and probably, on occasion, a downright silly thing. But hey, that is what people get when they ask *me* to write a column.

In a nutshell, this column is about me answering your questions. Get them to me via email (smiles@golden.net) or by voice, or by anonymous pieces of paper slipped into my pocket or by however. Then I will answer them, or try to, or make a mess of it, but hopefully not that last one. This bit said, on with the one question I have for this week.

Q. How does one go about finding a new play-partner?

A. It depends. What kind of partner are you looking for? For a short-term one night play experience, a fetish night is a great place to go. For a longer-term experience, social groups (like ours) are a great starting point, along with ads in magazines and on-line ads/newsgroups.

So now that you know where to start looking, how do you approach a potential partner? Use a straightforward manner with clear intent. Be polite and respectful. Just ask. If the person you ask says no, you won't be any worse off than when you started, and you might gain a friend from the contact, somebody who might be able to help you find a play partner.

To keep it short, you need to put yourself places where you can meet like-minded people, then be polite when you meet them. It might take time, but you will find someone to play with.

GLOBAL NEWS INTERVIEWS BOUDOIR NOIR

A Global News crew spent an afternoon last week filming interviews with Boudoir Noir's publishers and editor. The material will be used in an upcoming feature story about how leather and fetish are becoming more mainstream. An air date has not been announced.

-news courtesy of Boudnoir Noir's weekly email newsletter, reprinted with permission


Our Feelings as Newbies

by Sandy and jim

Sandy:

Recently, my very close friend Jim invited me to a "munch". I thought, "great, I finally get to eat as much as I want. I eat like a horse." As our conversation went on, it had nothing to do with food. Jim explained to me what it was, I almost "pissed my pants". As we spoke more about the munch, I became very curious, and inquisitive. I felt something was missing in my life, for some reason this appealed to me. I have complete trust in Jim and agreed to go.

Boy, I never shut up with questions the whole way down to K-W. I was so nervous walking up the stairs to the munch, that my legs were shaking. Yes, when I sat down with the members, I was still very shy and nervous. I was shocked and relieved at the same time to find out how much I was welcomed. I have never been somewhere, not knowing anyone and feeling as comfortable and accepted as the way I was treated.

I learned that night there was something missing in my life, I'm still not quite sure what my needs are. I would like to attend more functions to get a better understanding of my need for involvement in the scene.

Jim, thank you for giving me a different understanding of my sexuality. Thanks to EhBC for allowing me to attend their group.

Jim:

On September 3, I attended my first Munch in Waterloo. Being from a small town near Barrie, with much interest but little experience I was a little apprehensive of what I was getting into. At the meeting I was pleasantly surprised at the open warm welcome that was given from everyone. They all went the extra step in making me feel comfortable and included in the conversations as I met them. "Sorry still having trouble with names ". The next Munch and Playparty I missed due to having the flu.

While at home the postings from your list had a series on "Coming Out " something that I had never seriously contemplated before. After much thought, and a few alligators in my stomach "butterflies aren't big enough ", I causally talked to Sandy about my interest in the lifestyle, and what I experienced at the Munch. Sandy is one of this worlds very beautiful people and a girl I love unconditionally, but more importantly a person who has my total trust. She would not use my interests or feelings in a derogatory manner, no matter her personal feelings on this subject. To my delight Sandy agreed to attend the next Munch with me.

Sandy and I attended the Nov. 5th Munch and the Pirates party, both very pleasant experiences for us, in fact Sandy paid me the best compliment, she thanked me for introducing her to the group. You cannot know the warm feelings I had for this lady at that moment, finally someone I respect, trust, and love to share my inner most private interests.

I would like to thank the members of EhBC for accepting us so warmly and openly into their midst. We have never met any other group of people as encouraging as you are. We hope that we can be productive members and add something for it's good.

As of today it is Mistress Sandy and jim.


Thank you all very much,
Jim


Upcoming Events/Scene Contacts

Madame X hosts a fetish night at Limelight, the nightclub, on the last Tuesday of every month. The Limelight is located at 250 Adelaide Street West, in Toronto. There is a strict fetish dress code enforced at the door. For more information, call 416-537-2896 or 416-340-0646.

He & She Clothing Gallery - Play clothes for Grown-Ups. 263-265 Queen Street East, Toronto. phone 416-594-0171. Hours: Mon.-Wed.10-7, Thurs & Fri.10-9, Sat.10-6, Sun.12-6

Doc's Leathers and Dungeon Gear - new and old, bought and sold, chaps, bondage and discipline gear, pants, jock straps, jackets, vests. 726 Queen Street West, Toronto. 416-504-8888.

Aslan Leather - Leather and vinyl dildo harnesses, leather dildos, whips, chest and body harnesses, and other fun toys. By Carrie. For catalogue info, please write: 363 Sourauren Avenue, Box 58 Toronto, ON M6R 2G5 or phone: 416-538-9759.

Boudoir Noir, Canada's best known Leather - Fetish - Consensual SM Magazine, is published four times a year by Boudoir Noir Publications Inc., Box 5, Stn.F, Toronto, ON M4Y 2L4. Phone 1-800-498-8750. Six issue subscription price is $24, but please note that price is going up to $36 effective 1998. Boudoir Noir also hosts a Fetish Night, at the Catacombs (below the Sanctuary), every second and fourth Thursday of the month. 732 Queen Street West, Toronto. 10:30pm-1:30am. Dancing, videos, door prizes, coat check, changing room. Leather, fetish-SM dress code is requested but not mandatory. Cover $5.

Bear Buddies Toronto is a social group for gay and bisexual "bearish" men and their male admirers. We welcome members and guests of all ages, races and body types. Our goal is to recognize and socialize with like-minded men, both at home and when we travel. Bear Buddies Toronto is not primarily a community fundraising organization. BEAR MEAT, our informal get-together, happens every 3rd Friday of the month at the Toolbox (508 Eastern Avenue, Toronto. 416-466-8616.)


Where to Find Us

EhBC Munches:

First Wednesday of every month, in the Board Room, at the Barley Works, in the Huether Hotel, Uptown Waterloo (corner King and Princess Streets). Dress code is casual, all are welcome for dinner, drinks, conversation and socializing. 7-10pm +.

Find us online at:

ehbc@golden.net (email)
http://www.golden.net/~ehbc

If you have email, you can request information on the EhBC General Mailing List, Announcements Only List, or Administration List from

ehbc@golden.net.

The EhBC Discussion Group premiere meeting:

December 14th, phone karen 519-886-4867 for location, 1-4pm
The topic of the discussion group's first meeting is "Scene Talk: what do the various words and labels mean to each of us?"